Eye contact is one of the keys to a great body language. Tracy Goodwin, of whom we already commented a video invites us to work on our eye contact when we are delivering a speech in front of an audience.
The face is a part of public speaking and as she says : "The eyes are the window to the soul". You have to make eye contact without staring at the floor which shows that you are a shy person and that you lack confidence. On the other hand staring at one person in particular is weird and makes that person uncomfortable so instead of doing that, you have to talk to everyone. The most common mistake that public speakers make is only looking at the persons who seem to be interested in what they are saying (by nodding their head for example or smiling) so don't look for a positive feedback when talking to people. The last piece of advice given by Tracy is not being expressionless. You have to smile showing interest in what you are saying so smile and make great eye contact!
Don Varney is the founder of Varney Speaks, a company specialized in coaching people in public speaking and other more general things about personal development (this man is one of the first 33 members of the US Air Force).
Like Tracy Goodwin, looking at everyone is one of the keys to deliver a great public speech. Sometimes, when you are on the stage, highlights prevent you from seeing people in front of you. In this case, you have to visualize them and look at this mental image because you have to deliver the following non-verbal message while speaking : "You are important to me and I want to make sure that I do a great job for you.". Also, avoid forced gestures, don't look nervous, don't hang on to the podium and don't be shaking when hanging a piece of paper. You have to see this as an interaction with other people and focus on that rather than fearing them.
Like any other body language area, eye contact is also important in romantic relationships and especially dating. Jessica Claire is a professional dating coach at New York Dating Coach in New-York City and she is one of the rare female dating coaches for men.
According to her there are two categories of eye contact. The first one is the sudden eye contact and the second one is "staring". The last one consists on looking to someone without getting the same from him/her. It makes you look creepy and makes the other person feel very uncomfortable. On the other hand, sudden eye contact creates a connexion so you can hold it for 10 or 15 seconds. She is inviting people to train by practicing with people they know very well like family and friends.
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